Stop Negotiating Who You Are To Stay In The Rooms You Built
This is the recipe book for capable, high-performing professionals who want to recover their self underneath performance and lead from worth
The Feisty Human is the result of decades spent bridging the gap, working with leaders who had achieved everything they were supposed to and still felt internally misaligned.
This book is written as a series of recipes, each chapter gives you the method, ingredients and cooking instructions to begin applying them immediately. It helps you find exactly where you are before you take another step, and then gives you the exact recipe you need to close the gap between performance and self.
You've Reached The Summit … So Why Doesn't The View Feel Like You Expected It To?
You have an incredible track record and reputation. People describe you as capable and reliable. You've worked hard for years to build credentials and a strong career.
You got so good at holding it all together that you lost track of what was underneath. The self-help world has a script for burnout and failure but nothing describes this erosion.
So why does none of it land the way it should?
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Work that once felt meaningful now turns mechanical
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You feel a growing sense of becoming a passenger in your own life
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You find resentment growing even though you're doing well by every fair measure
This book is for the moment you stop explaining all these signs away and start looking underneath the output.
This Book Is For The Leaders Who Became Reliable At Their Own Expense
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You are competent and accomplished but neither promotions nor holidays fix the tiredness underneath.
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You feel your decisions getting heavier because they accommodate everyone else's comfort over your own knowledge.
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You are the reliable one and the cost of being called that has been building up for years.
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You have already read the books, frameworks and applied the strategies, and you still find yourself back in the same place.
Find Your Way Back To Who You Are Underneath All The Performance
For most of my leadership life, I was perfectly aligned to everyone in the room and completely lost to myself at the same time.
If that sounds familiar, you already know that the answer is not in the next qualification, the next role or next achievement.
The Feisty Human is the result of decades spent bridging the gap, working with leaders who had achieved everything they were supposed to and still felt internally misaligned.
This book is written as a series of recipes, each chapter gives you the method, ingredients and cooking instructions to begin applying them immediately. It helps you find exactly where you are before you take another step, and then gives you the exact recipe you need to close the gap between performance and self.
The Feisty Human is the result of decades spent bridging the gap, working with leaders who had achieved everything they were supposed to and still felt internally misaligned.
This book is written as a series of recipes, each chapter gives you the method, ingredients and cooking instructions to begin applying them immediately. It helps you find exactly where you are before you take another step, and then gives you the exact recipe you need to close the gap between performance and self.
5 Things This Book Will Change About How You Lead (And Live)
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Shed The Identity That Has Outgrown You
Discover the difference between who you actually are and who you have performed yourself to be, and reclaim the roles you absorbed without choosing.
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Build Inner Ground That Does Not Depend on the Room
Understand fundamentals about control and develop the internal stability that lets you sit with uncertainty without collapsing into it.
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Make Decisions Without Abandoning Yourself
Read the difference between urgency and importance to don't make choices that protect everyone else's comfort over your own knowledge
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Tell The Truth Without Burning Everything Down
Master honest expression and deliver hard truths from regulated ground. Illuminate what you want to say without burning the house down and build stronger relationships from it.
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Lead From Worth That Cannot Be Negotiated
Anchor your value so that it does not depend on your audience, outcome, or others agreeing with you. Discover what becomes possible when you stop trading pieces of yourself to belong.
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The Feisty Human is the result of decades spent bridging the gap, working with leaders who had achieved everything they were supposed to and still felt internally misaligned.
This book is written as a series of recipes, each chapter gives you the method, ingredients and cooking instructions to begin applying them immediately. It helps you find exactly where you are before you take another step, and then gives you the exact recipe you need to close the gap between performance and self.
“Your worth is not something you earn. If you are living and breathing, your worth is already yours. It does not require production. It does not require confirmation. Knowing that, really knowing it, is a different story. That is the story we are here for.”
AMBER MCMILLAN, THE FEISTY HUMAN
Meet Amber McMillan
I'm Amber McMillan, aka The Feisty PM.
I work at the intersection of leadership, emotional intelligence, identity, and human behavior. With more than 30 years of experience and a signature blend of grit and grace, I work as an impact coach, executive educator and thought leader for senior leaders and capable professionals navigating complex change.
Before all of that, I started my career as a pastry chef and later ran my own cooking school. What I learned in those kitchens is that the outcome always depends on what you bring to it. That is why this book is written as a sequence of recipes with clear instructions on what is required from you and the exact steps needed to cook up your desired outcome.
Leaders Who Found Their Way Back
“She is a creative powerhouse, a master of meaningful dialogue, and a living example of leadership that leads with worth, not just work.”
B.W.
Client Testimonial“I highly recommend Amber McMillan to any PMI Chapter or organization looking to help its members understand the importance of using the right tools for the job and sharing knowledge with others, while reminding them of their unique perspectives and the value they bring to projects.”
Kevin W. Reilly
PMP, PMI-ACP, CSM, CSPO, CSP, U.S Navy VeteranDiscover The Recipe For Leading Without Losing Yourself
The Feisty Human does not hand you a framework for becoming a better version of yourself. It gives you the tools to find out where you actually are, what you have been carrying and how to come back to the self that was there the whole time.
What Is On The Menu:
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Chapters structured as recipes that move from seeing the pattern to changing it and living differently
Practical "cooking" instructions at the end of each chapter that you can begin using immediately in your actual life
Honest accounts of what this looks like including where it has not gone smoothly
Frameworks grounded in research from Brené Brown, Viktor Frankl, Donald Winnicott, Stephen Porges, Tasha Eurich, and Amy Edmondson
A complete arc that takes you from diagnosing the pattern to embodying a different way of leading in the conversations that matter most
Your True Self Has Been Waiting
You already know that something has to change. The only question left is whether you do something about it today or let this resentment build up. Every week you keep pushing through this feeling is another week the gap between your true and performed self widens.
The Feisty Human is the result of decades spent bridging the gap, working with leaders who had achieved everything they were supposed to and still felt internally misaligned.
This book is written as a series of recipes, each chapter gives you the method, ingredients and cooking instructions to begin applying them immediately. It helps you find exactly where you are before you take another step, and then gives you the exact recipe you need to close the gap between performance and self.